CES, AVN, And The Sexually Uneducated Client
I was fairly pleased with the outcome of CES this year. It was so slow before then that I was starting to worry about the start of the new year. I know that in years past when I have been here for CES I was quite disappointed, but this year it put a little pep in my step.
I had noticed a ton more girls freelancing in the casinos and the variety that seems sort of out of place for the usual Vegas prostitutes. I had some image in my head of a venturesome group of pimps in Southern California who thought it would be a good idea to pack up their girls in airport shuttle vans and take them all to Las Vegas for the convention weekend and drop them off. Another thing I wondered as I watched two girls walking around in matching gold hot pants/romper outfits who were definitely porn stars, was “How many of these porn star girls or porn groupies get arrested by vice because they are being overly sexual yet breaking no laws?” Haven’t heard or read any figures on that one but if I do I will definitely post them. I am sure there are quite a few mix-ups and the porn girls get mistaken for prostitutes.
So I had posted an update on my Twitter about being amazed at people who are so in the dark about basic sexual education or human interaction. The client was a conventioneer visiting from a New England state but had moved to the US from India 7 years ago. He first started by replying to my greeting of, “Hi, How are you?” with, “How much are your services”? Since I was there for an agency I had to slow him down, collect the agency fee first, and then move on from there. He reluctantly gave me the fee since he assumed I was having sex for the agencies money. Then after he stripped down and I stripped down he was all over me like a kid in a candy store. I had to calm him down since he was getting way too carried away, grabbing forcefully, and looked like he was about to lick me like a dog. He calmed down, apologized for being excited (which is okay of course!), got to talking about entertainment and what budget he wanted to work with. Right off the bat he was asking for almost two hours of full service for barely over what the company was making (which I think was around $100). I said I would be more than happy to please him but his demands were way off. He finally understood why his money wasn’t buying so much but said that was okay, he liked me too much for me to go.
Excellent!
So I excused myself to the restroom and he followed me saying, “Do you have to pee? Can I watch? I want to see!” and was forcing the bathroom door open as I was trying to close it. I explained that would not be included with what he paid, he sighed and went back to the room. After I finished, I told him it was his turn to clean up since his terrible comb over was matted with oil from not washing it and deemed a good rinse off.
So… as for the actual entertainment it went quickly and was minimal, but what got me afterwards were his questions. This poor guy was completely lost. He first asked me about my “vagina”, as he put it politely. He asked, “Where do girls pee from? Is that what the clitoris is for? I have heard about it feeling good”. I was shocked but didn’t want to make him feel bad for being uneducated and explained what the clitoris was for and how we peed from underneath. His next question was about dating. He asked, “How do I date? What do girls like?” I had to answer this question carefully because he was in desperate need of a haircut (I say shave it all off don’t mess with what little hair you have left!), had a huge long beard I could tell was tucked like most Indian men who are Sikh (but he claimed he wasn’t), and needed some brow trimming (had one brow, not two!). I told him he should go out, find someone good, and treat himself to a day of pampering. I told him girls like guys who are confident and who take care of themselves so treat yourself well and maybe get a new more confident look. He was happy with my suggestions and went on to ask, “So where do I find dates?” I kind of giggled at the question but really had no clue. I only gave him the suggestion of staying away from bars and he thought maybe the internet would be better.
Did I mention this guy was almost 40?
It shocked me at the time that he would be so uneducated and opened my eyes more to how other cultures treat sex education as a sin and avoid it almost completely. Hope my suggestions helped!
Tags: AVN, CES Show, Clients, Conventions
OK, so that is an interesting post. Am I surprised by the lack of sex ed here? No, not really. But I am glad to see that you handled it very professionally.
January 15th, 2010 at 4:50 amWow, fascinating story. Maybe you should have pointed him toward the porn convention, wherein the girls could have told him more about female body parts/functions and the guys could have taught him more about grooming. Haha.
January 15th, 2010 at 7:15 amNot unbelievable at all. You probably were his first sex education course. You did well to start his sex education rather than he do something unpleasant. Sounds like a “40 year old virgin”. Makes me believe even more your profession does serve a purpose. By the sound of it you handled the situation really well. Who knows, you may just get more referrals from him.
January 15th, 2010 at 11:42 amVery Very amusing !! Being from India, I know vast majority get their first sexual experience after they are married, and even then, the girls are soo shy, they probably do it with lights off ! …so that probably explains this gentleman not having a clue !
…But it’s different in developed cities in India like New Delhi and Bombay – where the culture is over-westernized … and the kids are, well, over-educated ! 🙂
January 15th, 2010 at 1:59 pmI’m new to your blog,i thought what you did with client was outstanding.Not sure others in your field would have acted as you did. Like others have said ,thats probably his first time being with a woman.He will always remember you..
January 15th, 2010 at 7:22 pmWhy stay away from bars? Maybe Vegas is different, but I’ve had good luck in bars. You have to be picky — I go for smart girls — but there are definitely quality women at bars.
And BTW I’m 41.
January 16th, 2010 at 8:44 amD : for this guy ‘Stay away from bars’ is good advice – with his ignorance, he would probably get himself a black eye in no time !
January 16th, 2010 at 10:56 amYou are one extremely patient girl. I know many escorts who simply won’t see guys from India or Pakistan because of things like you just described.
January 29th, 2010 at 2:09 pmstrong writing throughout this blog.. best wishes and good luck
January 29th, 2010 at 2:28 pmYour job is so sad.
February 9th, 2010 at 12:00 amI briefly dated a lovely guy from India a while back. Because he had left the country to get an education abroad, he didn’t fit into the stereotypical Indian paradigm; although the rest of his family did. He once explained to me how his father always bragged about him to all his friends because he had actually had girlfriends. His cousins would interrogate him when he returned to India about sex and dating. He was the only male in his family who didn’t get married young. For those that did, sex was just as taboo within the marriage bed as it was outside of it.
Even more amusing, he had a roommate that was 29 and had yet to be with a woman. Heh. Your story reminded me of where his roommate will be in another ten years.
May 2nd, 2010 at 12:44 pmWhere do girls pee from? Really? Wow… lol
August 15th, 2010 at 12:07 pmI don’t know if it’s only foreign men. I’ve encountered a few American men who seem pretty uneducated. It’s really sad that some religious and moral views prevent people from fully educating themselves.
Love your blog. Keep up the good work!
April 8th, 2011 at 9:21 pm